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The invitation has just arrived in the mail. What do you do next?
When one is invited to an afternoon tea, or any event for that
matter, there are protocols that apply and should be followed:
When invited as a guest to an occasion, it is rude to ask one’s host/hostess if they may bring along another guest.
Unless included in the original invitation, do not ask your host if
you may bring your children, pets, or another guest.
When someone has extended an invitation to you never, ask your host
to change the venue.
The correct manner in which to handle an invitation when one has a
visiting house guest is to inform your host that as much as you
would like to accept the invitation, you must send your regrets due
to your visitors, but to please think of you again in the future.
Only if your host, in turn, then suggests that you may bring your
guest to the party is it correct to do so. It would not be out of
line for you to offer to cover the costs for your additional guest.
All invitations require a R.S.V.P. If the invitation requires a
written response, do so in a timely manner. Do not leave your host
guessing, be courteous and reply.
Do inform your host, at the time of your R.S.V.P., of any food
allergies that you may have. This will allow your host to
accommodate your menu needs without being caught off guard. However,
do not expect your host to change the entire menu on your behalf.
Never impose on your host. Either accept the invitation
or respectfully send your regrets. If you have not sent a R.S.V.P,
certainly do not plan on just showing up. If you have accepted, mark
your calendar and be certain to attend. Once you have accepted an
invitation, if for any reason you are unable to attend, notify your
host to cancel. Never be a no show.
Do bring a gift to your host. One that is appropriate to the
occasion to which you have been invited. Do not expect your host to
serve or use your gift at the event, as most likely the menu and
decor have already been planned in advance.
Be a good
guest. Engage others in conversation without being controversial. Do
not monopolize the conversation. Have good table manners.
When one is a guest in a public establishment, do not order the most
expensive items on the menu. Do not order extra food items from the
menu. Never take it upon yourself to order any alcoholic beverages
by the bottle. Only your host has the right to order alcohol by the
bottle. A good guest will never consume more than two alcoholic
beverages at any one event.
Do call the next day to thank your host. If you can afford to do so,
by all means send a bouquet of flowers as well. A hand-written thank
you note, once the tradition, is now a welcome touch.
A considerate and good guest will always be invited back!
Ellen Easton is a lifestyle industry leader, tea and etiquette authority, author of Afternoon Tea~ Tips, Terms and Traditions,
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Easton’s family traces their tea roots to the early 1800s, when ancestors first introduced tea plants from India and China to the Colony of Ceylon,
thus building one of the largest and best cultivated teas estates on the island.
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