Dining Etiquette GuideRestaurant and Dinner Party
Manners and Etiquette
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Restaurant Reservations: Restaurant reservations are like any other appointment. If you make a reservation, stick to it. Call ahead if you’re going to be more than 15 minutes late, and cancel as far in advance as possible if your plans change so that someone else can get a table. Some restaurants take credit card numbers to hold reservations and charge no-show fees. Napkins: In a restaurant: As soon as you
are seated, remove the napkin from your place setting, unfold it, and put it in
your lap. Do not shake it open. At some very formal restaurants, the waiter may
do this for the diners, but it is not inappropriate to place your own napkin in
your lap, even when this is the case. If you excuse
yourself from the table, loosely fold the napkin and place it to the left or
right of your plate. Do not refold your napkin or wad it up on the table either.
Never place your napkin on your chair. At a private dinner party:
The meal begins when the host or hostess unfolds his or
her napkin. This is your signal to do the same. Place your napkin on your lap,
completely unfolded if it is a small luncheon napkin or in half, lengthwise, if
it is a large dinner napkin. Do not shake it open. When to eat: In a restaurant: Wait until all are served before beginning to eat.
At a private dinner party:
Silverware and
Dinnerware:
Dinner Setting Photo by Replacement, Ltd. Use the silverware farthest from your plate first. Here's the rule: Eat to your left, drink to your right. Any food dish to the
left is yours, and any glass to the right is yours. Use one of two methods when using the fork and knife:
Once used, your utensils, including the handles, should not touch the table again. Always rest forks, knives, and spoons on the side of your plate or in the bowl. For more formal dinners, from course to course, your tableware will be taken away and replaced as needed.
To signal that your are done with the course, rest your
fork, tines up, and knife blade in, with the handles resting at five o'clock an
tips pointing to ten o'clock on your plate. General Etiquette Rules:
Proper Tipping Etiquette: At a restaurant, always leave a tip. Tips can vary from 15% to 25%.
Specific Food
Etiquette Guide:
Artichokes:
It is both proper and polite to
pluck the leaves with your fingers, leaving fork and knife aside for now.
Pull off a leaf, holding it by the pointed end.
Put the other end in your mouth and pull it between your teeth, scraping the
length of the leaf (the edible portion of the leaves becomes greater as you get
closer to the center of the artichoke).
Just before you get to the very center, leaves
will become almost white with purple tips. Be careful of these leaves because
their purple ends are prickly. When the leaves are pulled, you will be left with
the base, the heart, crowned with a fuzzy patch. You have now reached the best
part of all, the very reason for eating artichokes: the heart. Carefully scoop
away the fuzzy stuff with your knife or spoon (though a properly prepared
artichoke will already have the choke removed). With knife and fork, cut bites
from the heart like pieces of prime fillet.
If you're provided with a dip such as a
vinaigrette or mayonnaise, put a small part of the edible portion of the leaf in
the dip and scrape with your teeth as directed above. Don't overdo it on the dip
or you won't taste the artichoke.
Asparagus:
Most etiquette books say that you can eat whole asparagus
spears, without a sauce, by picking up with your hand. However, if you do this
at a restaurant or dinner party, you will draw strange glances. Be safe
and use your knife and fork to cut and eat them.
Avocado:
If the avocado is served in its shell, it is eaten with a
spoon. If it is sliced on a plate or in a salad, eat it with a fork.
Bacon:
The rule is simply that bacon with any fat on it should be
eaten with a knife and fork. If it is very crisp, crumble it with a fork and eat
it with your fingers.
Berries:
Generally, eat berries with a spoon, whether they have
cream on them or not.
Bread:
Break slices of bread, rolls and muffins in
half or in small pieces never larger than one bite. Butter each bite at a time. Small biscuits do not
have to be broken. It is never appropriate to cut a roll with a knife.
When the rolls are served in a basket, take one, and always
pass the basket to your right. Place the roll on the break plate, which is
located on the left side. Never tear your roll in half or into many pieces.
Use your own butter knife and the butter on your plate;
buttering should be done on the plate or just above it.
Caviar:
To preserve the full flavor of caviar, scoop it
out using mother-of-pearl utensils, and NEVER use a metallic
spoon metal oxidizes the eggs), which will create an unwanted (and pretty
horrid) metal bite. If necessary use a wood or plastic spoon.
Don’t mush caviar up while you’re serving yourself
or other, lift the spoon carefully. Caviar should be scooped from the container
vertically from top to bottom to avoid crushing the egg.
If you're at a cocktail party or reception, where
prepared caviar canapés are being passed on trays, simply lift one off the plate
and pop it into your mouth.
When served caviar as an hors d'oeuvre, no matter
how much you might be tempted by its luscious flavor. It's considered bad taste
to eat more than an ample serving of about two ounces, or about two spoonfuls.
Chicken: Chicken is
eaten with a fork and knife.
Chips and French Fries:
Chips are eaten with the fingers and French fries with a fork. Never pick up the
whole piece and bite part of it off.
Clams and oysters in the half
shell:
Hold the shell with the left hand and lift the clam out using your oyster
fork.
Crab, shrimp and lobster
cocktails:
These are eaten with a cocktail fork.
Crab/lobster claws:
Cracked with a nutcracker, broken with the fingers and the meat taken out with
an oyster fork.
Fried Fantail Shrimp:
Picked up by the tail and eaten with the fingers.
Olives:
Generally, olives are
considered a finger food. It is perfectly acceptable to pick up and eat an olive
with your fingers. Remove pit with your fingers. If you prefer not to use the
finger method, use a small fork to stab olive and remove olive from your mouth.
Depending on your dining
situation, you can either choose to eat olives or leave them on the plate.
If you are on a job interview, don’t eat them. Also, in a highly formal
dinner, don’t eat them.
Emily Post
indicates that, where olives are part of a salad, they are treated like the
rest of the salad and taken in by fork and the pit deposited on the fork to
return.
Pasta or Spaghetti:
The perfect method for eating spaghetti or other long stringy pasta is to twirl
it around your fork. Use a spoon to help if needed. It is also acceptable to cut
pasta with a knife and fork.
Pineapple:
Use a knife and fork to eat fresh pineapple slices.
Potatoes:
Baked potatoes are most often served already slit. If not,
cut across the top with a knife, open the potato wider with your fork, and add
butter or sour cream and chives, salt, and pepper. You may eat the skin as you
go along. Don't take the insides out and put the skin aside (or take the foil
off). Eat it by scooping out the insides bite by bite.
Risotto:
Using a fork or a spoon, push the grains of cooked
rice out slightly toward the edge of the bowl, eating only from the pulled out
ring of rice. Continue spreading from the center and eating around the edges in
a circle. This will keep the risotto hot as you enjoy your risotto.
Salad: If you are
served large pieces or a whole wedge of lettuce, cut one bite at a time, using
the knife provided. If the salad is served before or after the main course, use
the smaller fork. If the salad is considered the main course, use the entrée
fork.
Sandwich:
Small sandwiches, such as tea sandwiches or canapés, may be
picked up and eaten with your fingers. Large sandwiches, if not cut in halve,
should be cut with your knife before lifting and eating. Any hot sandwich served
with a gravy requires a knife and fork.
Shish-kabob: Hold the
tip of the shish-kabob in one hand and use the dinner fork to remove the pieces
with the other. When all the food has been removed from the stick, place it on
the side of your plate. Always eat the meat with your utensils.
Soup: Dip the spoon
into the soup, moving it away from the body, until it is about two-thirds full,
then sip the liquid (without slurping) from the side of the spoon (without
inserting the whole bowl of the spoon into the mouth). It is perfectly fine to
tilt the bowl slightly (again away from the body) to get the last spoonful or
two of soup.
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